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[Nashigii]

Being new to this site, I wasn't sure where the proper place to post this topic would be and so "Hang Out" seemed to be the best location.

I consider myself to be Asexual. In my case, to put it simply, this means that I don't experience sexual attraction or the desire for physical intimacy with another person. In church, this can be an acutely sensitive subject for me when the topic of a sermon turns to sex. In every situation I've been in where the pastor begins to preach on sexual morality, lust, and all of those fine things, he or she assumes that everyone struggles in this area (which is certainly not the case).

My question is: How many others on this site also fall under the umbrella of Asexuality? What problems have you had during bible studies, sunday church, or simply chatting with your christian friends? Do you feel alienated? Do people try to "fix you" or not believe you?

[Rebekia]

I used to tease a lot that I was because I have pretty good self-control..

It's interesting to hear you say what you do. Sounds like you take it as a burden when I would think it'd be a blessing.

[beforHim]

Sorry you feel alienated, but I can say two things which could help you feel better, I think:

1) If later on in your life you start feeling sexually attracted, these sermons and bible studies can come in handy.  Make sure you don't assume that the way you are now is the way you'll always be.  Example: I never ever gain weight- no matter what I eat, how much I eat, or how "couch potatoey" I get.  But I know someday this could change, so I need to keep my diet under control; and I need to learn from doctors now (instead of the time the problem comes) what to do in this situation (I do start becoming overweight).  I would take these lessons and keep them stored in my heart if I were you.

2) I would also listen very carefully and remember these lessons and take them to heart so that you can help others out.  Someday you might need to help a friend out in this area.  You don't want to say, "well, since I don't struggle in this area, I never learned about it, so sorry, I can't help you out here".

So:
1) Think about God: if later in life you run up against these struggles, you don't want to make God sad by suddenly giving into the temptations to which He gave you help with- you didn't pay attention because, at the time, the struggles didn't effect you.
2) Think about others- if sometime in life others ask for advice, you don't want to have to turn them elsewere because, since the problem doesn't effect you, you therefore don't learn about it.

Either way, just remember "love the Lord your God with all you got, and love your neighboor as yourself".  In doing so, these sermons and lessons come to be great aids to you and others, ultimately the glory of God.



We'll be praying that you feel less ackward. 

[RAVENOUS]

Everybody has a trigger for their sexuality from the most obvious to the most bizarre. Do what beforHim says and pay attention to what is being preached about that subject. It is like the soldier who is trained how to kill human beings in combat. They have no desire to kill people but a higher authority prepares that soldier so that he/she will be safe when (and if) that soldier faces that trial. Its best to get prepared now while there's nothing clouding your vision.

Peace

[beforHim]

Good analogy, RAVENOUS.